The Best Time to Get Married
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“How many years, should I wait to get married? When is the best age, the best time, should I wait… or Just do it??? Help?
Marriage is an undertaking that is supposed to be binding, lasting and forever. It should not be taken frivolously. This involves the union of two separate individuals, two families and two worlds. It is not like a morsel of food that one can just spit out when it happens to be so hot. Hence, you are one of a kind to be thinking of it and to even just consider its propriety and timing.
The crucial question really is if it is time to get married. The Dating Game which I am fond of calling it is actually a social ritual which enables both parties the chance to get to know each other. Of course, even before one starts to decide whom to date, there already is that glimmer of attraction. However, one should beware that in virtually all “boy meets girl” scenario, both parties will always try to place the best foot forward. This eventually becomes the bane of whirlwind relationships
There is no question that your decision to consider marriage is based on your undying love for each other. Yet, do you really know each other. Is he aware of your quirks? Do you really know your partner enough? If I were in love, I would definitely promise you the moon, the stars and even a meteorite or two bundled in for effects. Will you still love your partner if he or she snores like a truck negotiating a steep curve? Will he or she still be that lovable if a glass filled with water awaits their dentures before bedtime?
One should be familiar with ones partner who will be with you through life. Will you still be loved after your beauty has left you for life will be cruel when it comes to looks. Will your loved one still be with you if you happen to be unemployed. If you become sickly, will he care for you or simply catch the nearest ride in favor of a world of less burden. Is the union parasitic, commensal or symbiotic? As always, a relationship should undergo the test of time. It should mature and wither all obstacles and possible irritants to what is supposed to be the proverbial union in Heaven.
Finances matter a lot. Marriage involves the move towards independence. Are both of you stable enough to live on your own? Will you simply move in with your parents or with his? I am a believer in the equality of sexes and disdain the often traditional stereotype of relegating a woman to household and marital concerns. Thus, will you simply depend on his having a nice cozy job to eke out a life together? The wedding alone will be a great financial drain. Will it be a royal one or a very simple affair? Both parties to a future union should be capable enough to face the realities of jointly tackling a suddenly expense ridden world. Mind you, we still have not considered the inevitable arrival of children – a whole new expense agenda!
Age is another matter to consider. Marrying at such an early age will deprive you of your teenage years. This will then force you to decide on such matters like being with your spouse or hanging out and even partying with your peers. Deciding to marry at a late age will simply force you to latch on the nearest available relationship without really thinking about it for fear of missing out on the so called train schedules of life. Of course this equates to the question of having children too. You should be old enough to enjoy the company of your children provide them the caring, nurturing and blessings only a prepared parent can impart.
There are still a lot to consider but in a nutshell, marriage is an endeavor that is approached with caution and exhaustive deliberation and serious consideration. Do not simply jump into it. Lest you find yourself out of the pan but right smack into the fire! Don’t take it for granted otherwise it will die out like a candle before an electric fan set on high. You don’t count the years and simply decide … “Goody! I’m 20 years old! Let’s get married!”
Think about it and decide. Your happiness is at stake here. Be pragmatic. You and your partner can together determine if both of you are indeed prepared to take that significant shift in life. I only wish the best for you and your loved one.
May your relationship continue to bloom and shower you with flowers of love!
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Getting by the age of 23 mean that i am still young?If so at what age should i say i'm now grown up and ready for marriage?I agree that we should not just jump into it.We need to each well first.
Being 27.. and having been married for 5 years.. and having a 6 year old daughter.. i think its kinda hard to really be able to know when the right time and right person to get re-married to... definetely need to get to know people before rushing into anything.. i speak from personal experience
First. There is NO the same formula for everyone when to get ready - it's up to everyone's personal feeling of being ready.
Second. It depends on personal values and goals in life.
Some people need to party till 45 looking for the right person and after that age most of them stay alone.
Third. There is always a danger of getting into selfishness, then selfish understanding of love and marriage life will never make anyone happy as such person will make its self a center of everything....who likes that?
Forth. The years pass anyways but how to spend them usefully...?
I am 28 now, will be 29 by Febuary and not yet married.I am scared of women and that makes it defficult for me to think of marriage.Please, i need someone to advice me!
i AM 41 YEARS OF AGE. i'M STARTING TO FEEL LONELINESS. I'M WONDERING WEATHER IT'S ME OR MY ENVIRONMENT. EVERY WOMEN I RUN INTO TELL ME THEY HAVE A BOYFRIEND OR ARE MARRIED. THAT FINE. AS WELL AS FINDING THAT THIS IN PUBLIC i ALSO SENSE THIS AT A CHURCH I ATTEND. I PRAY THAT GOD WILL SEND SOMEONE MY WAY. I AM FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT AND HAVE A PLACE TO LIVE. I'M HOME BY MY SELF ALWAYS. THAT THOUGHT OF HAVING SOMEONE TO TALK TO IS LOVELY. IT IS HARD TO GET THAT TO HAPPEN IN MY REALITY. " i'M MARRIED, i HAVE A BOY FRIEND" THOSE WORDS HURT DEEP DOWN INSIDE. ONE WOULD THINK BUT IT BEHIND YOU AND MOVE ON. IT IS HARD, IT LIKE WOMEN ARE TIED UP IN THEIR LIVES BUSY WITH THESE CHILDREN AND SIGNIFICANT OTHER. i'M JUST LOOKING FOR A PERSONAL CLOSE FRIEND. MATURE INTO SOMETHING SERIOUS. I REALLY TRY ITS GETS HARDER AND HARDER AS I'M GETTING OLDER. i CAN'T BELIEVE i DON'T HAVE ANY CHILDREN. i WOULD LIKE TO HAVE AT LEAST ONE. i'M READY FOR IT TO HAPPEN. IT SEEMS THAT I'M JUST NOT ATTRACTIVE IN THE PHYSICAL FORM OR IT'S TO LATE IN MY LIFE. i HAD SOME FRIENDS WHO TELL ME I HAVE TIME. o.K CAN I GET A DATE FIRST. you HAVE TO GET TO KNOW SOMEONE FIRST. i'M STUCK ON THAT POINT I'VE BEEN HERE AT THIS POINT FOR FOR TIME. I HOPE i MEET SOMEONE. AND ULTIMATELY GET MARRIED. ON THE BACK OF MY MIND I DON'T WANT TO BE ALONE. I WOULD LIKE TO COME HOME AND TALK TO SOMEONE SPECIAL. I WOULD LIKE TO HAVE A YOUNG ONE TO REAR UP.
what about me?im single.lol can u be my husband?
When you both just know, I think really if you need to ask then you are unsure - You wont care a hoot about anyone's opinions when you know for certain that yes.. You want to be invested in someone for life, to spend your life with them, and it wont be no ball and chain feeling that person will be your best pal. I don't think anyone could tell you anything different when you just know for yourself.
D ryt tym 2 get married is when u hv a sure confirmation 4rm ur spirit man,ñ dt tks u hvng a relationship wif God. My dear,marriages end 2day bcos they were birthed on d wrong foundation. D ryt foundation is He who created marriage-GOD. Jesus luvs u!
Well personally I am young and I probley dont have all the right answers but i am very wise. I believe that there is really no exact age where there is a GO sign for marriage. My grandmother got married her 2nd time when she was 20 and was merried for 42 years until my grandfather passed. I think when you are around someone who makes you happy in all ways and share your beliefs and accept your flaws but still look at u like there is nothing better..they are the one you should proceed to spend your life with...if it is at age 17 or 37...only time will tell for you and that special someone.
i will really like to no wat to look in a buy for cuz t have bein true real hurt an pain an am lonly
dont worry true is always successfull one day you will be couple and having happy life ,
I'm 19 and I love my boyfriend so much I would like 2 introduse him 2 my family couse I feel that I'm old now that I'm working...but I'm not sure if this is the right time 2 introduse him 2 my family or what #confused
I'm 19 and I love my boyfriend so much I would like 2 introduse him 2 my family couse I feel that I'm old now that I'm working...but I'm not sure if this is the right time 2 introduse him 2 my family or what #confused
I've been through 2 failed relationships in the last 9 years (not marriages), been emotionally hurt but learned many things from them. Been single and loving it for the last 2 years and 3 months ago I met the love of my life. Everything from the start has just felt "right" morals are the same, mutual respect, individuality, we're both hard working etc. After 3 months he asked me to marry him, and nothing has felt more right. I don't feel I'm rushing a thing, we both talked, and agreed and this is the direction we're heading in. So it doesn't matter what your age, but it does depend on your maturity level and your ability to cope with life in general. Good luck to everyone. Do what YOU feel is right, and don't let others make the decisions for you :)
i think the right time to get married is the time your heart felt it right...as well as your wholeness ready to submit yourself to someone you love....no matter what it takes..as long as your into it without hesitation then go..!! and have fun for the new adventure in life..(= im looking forward for that(im single!)
thanks for the ideas shared here...they are all useful to me as searcher for the best advice
Am 21yrs old and we've known each other for about 2yrs.he is 26yrs and now he wants 2 marry me.he will complete his tertiary on july and i'vent been to tertiary.i told my mum about it and she told me i should complete my education first.Am soo comfused right now i need your help guys.i really do.we luv each other so much that we want 2 spend the rest of our lives together.
Pls help me, i'm 27yr now preparing t get married wen i'm 28yr wt a girl of 18yrs.is any tin wrong wt dat i'm confused
thats basically and essentially right.but the best ime for geting maried by accounting every things,I mean every thing be all right such as job,house ,car and etc is 25.
I think to get married you should be financially stable just so problemas do not arise and if you have doubts then definately do not do it! You wont question it when its right :) Good luck to everyone!
PS: My boyfriend and i are 19 and 18. Complete support eachother, have a house, three vehicles, and are getting married in the next year! So if you are stable and love eachother then do it!
I am 23yrs in university and my boyfriend is in nce and my parent are complainin because of the qualification pls am confuse
I THINK BEST TIME TO GET MARRIED IS (25) YEARS FOR MEN CUZ U WANT TO SETTEL DOWN...AND FOR SOMONE TAKECARE FOR U..AFTAR LONG DAY OF WORKE
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evangelinepapa 4 years ago
very well said